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Hello,
Welcome to the Big Picture Partnering newsletter.
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Big Picture Relationship Tip for August, 2004 |
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Feel more empowered and have more fun -- become effective in all
your conversations. Whether you are having a conversation with
your partner, your kids, a close friend, someone at the office,
or even listening to your inner self, we all know that
communication is a powerful tool. We also know what it feels
like to be tongue-tied, or unable to find appropriate words for
a situation, or nervous about talking because we don't know how
another person will react or what the outcome or consequence
might be. Yet everyone can become experts in communication I
like to simply call it having a good conversation.
Try out these tips and keep refining them as you strive
towards better communication:
1. Become a great listener. This is 75% of all great
communication!
2. "Bookend" difficult things you have to say with your over-all
feelings for the person and intentions for a positive outcome
for both of you.
3. The Broken Record Technique: If your main message tends to
get lost in conversations that are difficult, rehearse your core
message beforehand and stick to it - no matter how the other
person tries to detour the conversation!
4. Learn to have a mind-set of "Win/Win" in every interaction.
5. "Build on" what another person has said, rather than
polarizing - taking or speaking an opposing position or view.
6. Touch helps ease difficult conversations. Try walking and
holding hands, or sit side-by-side, or even back to back.
Believe it or not,less eye-contact when you are angry
(especially with males) eases a person's ability to listen!
7. Slow down! Remember you don't have to resolve everything
Right Now. Your goal should be to become EFFECTIVE! You know how
to push your favorite people's buttons, so you also know how to
avoid them! Take your time, cool off, think it through and
you'll have wonderful opportunities to be communicate lovingly,
kindly, diplomatically with all.
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Invite Dr. Jan to your organization |
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Do you have a group of people who should hear Dr. Jan? Maybe
it's people from your church, or a community/fraternal
organization, a branch of the military, or a social group. Dr.
Jan can come to you.
She's available for workshops and programs that are tailored
to the needs of your group. For more information check the
SERVICES FOR COUPLES and SERVICES FOR PROFESSIONALS buttons on
our website.
More on this topic »
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Sign-up For Your Question of the Month |
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People who have purchased the Living Your Dreams Together
Conversation Cards have the option of receiving a new question
emailed to them each month to talk about with their partner. Now
you can receive this question too!
The Question of the Month encourages partners to explore
their throughts, ideas, and dreams and then share them with
their loved one. Signing up for the Question of the Month is
easy -- go to www.twofoldpublications.com/qom and enter your
email address. Just click on our link.
Sign up now! »
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Special Offer for Busy Women at Mom Camp: Sept.15-17 |
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Mom-Camp is a day camp just for women, September 15 - 17 Why?
Because women often spend too much time taking care of everyone
else in their lives, leaving themselves for last. Mom-Camp
offers a much needed self-care adventure to refresh, revitalize,
and just have fun. In addition, there are many great speakers
and workshops - Dr. Jan is one of them!
Dr. Jan will be a "camp counselor" - that's a workshop leader
during tis three-day event. She will be talking with women about
how to partner in their relationships, hold their ground and
stay "adult", learn different relationships styles, and uncover
long held, or deeply buried dreams and desires.
Mom-Camp already has many women registered, but there is
still room for more. Big Picture Partnering has a few discounted
tickets available -- $100 for the 3-day camp. Discounted tickets
will be distributed on a first- come, first served basis. Call
Kara Pederson at 612- 338-4233 to request the tickets. For more
information on Mom-Camp go to their website.
www.mom-camp.com »
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Get Acquainted with Big Picture Partnering
in just 3 hours --
Introductory Sessions
Sept. 18 & 22 |
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Have you been curious about Big Picture Partnering but you
aren't sure if:
- Your partner will want to come to a workshop
- You can make the 5 session workshop commitment,
or
- You just want more information
- You are single and want a great next relationship.
If any of these apply to you, this is your opportunity to come
see what it's all about in just 3 hours.
Join Dr. Jan as she leads you through a short form of the Big
Picture Partnering workshop. You will be introduced to the Big
Picture style of relating and the 10 Essentials that keep you
continuously connected and working together mutually to create
the life you most desire.
September 18, 9am - 12
September 22, 6pm - 9pm
$35 individual, $60 couple
Location: Open Book
1011 Washington Ave
Minneapolis, MN
Should you decide you want to sign-on for the longer workshop
format, your introductory fee will be fully applied to the full
workshop series beginning on Oct 13.
More on Workshops and Retreats |
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