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Dr. Jan’s approach can work for you if:

You’re starting out with someone who seems right – but how do you know the signs to make sure it’s right?
You’re soon to be married and want to make sure you really know one another. You want to ask all the right questions of yourself –and one another.
You are committed and living together. You want to deepen your relationship and eventually marry.
You are coming together as a couple –but there are many more of you! It’s a blended family with everyone’s needs and wants, issues and fears. How do you guide it for yourself as a couple and for everyone else (be they young or grown kids, former spouses, new and former in-laws) without losing your sanity –or your love!

Text Box: Your past relationships have not gone that well, and this time you want to do it right.

You’ve been married before and want to get it right this time.
You have some life experience (maybe even a little heart break) and want to get back out there again. You want to learn to trust your choices.
You are newly married and want to build a solid foundation for your wild and crazy love!

Text Box: You’re ready for a serious relationship -for the first time.

You may be scared; You may have prior hurts, history, and expectations you don’t want to hold you back from experiencing lifelong love. Where do you turn?
You are thinking about becoming available for relationship –you want to venture into dating first time or once again. It feels new and strange. You want to know the best ways to go about it –the best ways to maximize your potential for lifelong love.

Text Box: You’re in a relationship that’s starting to fray at the edges –or break apart at the seams.

You know you are in-trouble. You’ve never reached out for help before, but this time you need it.
You don’t want to feel regret later on and would prefer to save your relationship if you can. You need help from someone who has answers –and fast.
Your mate has gone silent after many months or years of nagging, crying, or angry outbursts. It feels like a relief, but the chasm is only growing wider between you.
You’ve been together awhile and looking back, you realize the reasons you came together were pretty slim – your relationship is pretty anemic now. What do you do? You need help in assessing if anything can be done to save your marriage and build something new.
You’ve been married for a while and feel really out of touch, apathetic. Your relationship needs a transfusion of new energy.
Your mate keeps saying he or she wants more. You hear it, but dismiss it as being about the daily pressures. Something starts to nag at you that you’d better wake up and listen –and get some help –before it’s too late.
One (or both) of you has strayed emotionally, and maybe sexually, from the relationship (has had a sexual affaire or an affaire of the heart.) You are not sure you can “get the love back.” Before you call it quits, you want some professional advice.
The old hurt and betrayal keeps resurfacing. Remaining unresolved, it keeps you from healing and from coming closer together again. You want that more than anything.
You can’t stand the thought of divorce.

Text Box: You and your partner are facing retirement or an empty nest.

The kids are growing up fast and you anticipate a bit of sadness, but also lots of wonderful free time and lots more energy for the two of you! You want to explore your many options.
The kids are almost grown and suddenly you realize you don’t know one another any more.
One of you is ready to retire and one of you is finally ready to do her life’s work. What now?
One of you is ready to adventure and one of you wants the security of the known –life as usual. What now?
You are part of that mature audience who are still lively, forward thinking, open-hearted and see lots of life possibilities ahead but may need a bit of redirection, clarification at this stage of life and relationship.
Married a long time and kids are grown and leaving home. You are fearful if you don’t envision a different future together you’ll simply get caught in living life through your grown children and your grandkids.
You’re both savvy, fairly healthy, and young-at-heart. You have done a lot of traditional things in your earlier life and are now at a stage to adventure –or give back to the world. You want some tools to help you shake-up your patterns for the second-half of your life adventure together.

Text Box: You want more –More intimacy, trust, or passion with your partner.

You have been together a while, love one another, and are doing “okay” –but daily pressures, work, and family life are at the forefront and your relationship is suffering. You want more. How do you reprioritize, how do you get it back?
You are married with little kids. You love your mate and family life. You both do well with the kids but you feel like you have no time for one another and are losing that special connection you once had.
You’ve been married 5, 6, 7, or maybe 12 years (some of you have kids and some do not) When asked, you’d say you are doing okay –but you really want more.
You have a pretty good relationship but there are a few potholes you keep falling into –(maybe it’s about lack of sex, or money, the in-laws, or the kids, or…..) and you want to resolve these issues together. You want to get on to better, bigger things together and know you can do it with a little bit of help.
Daily pressures, responsibilities, and distractions have made you lose touch with what you want or why you came together.

To contact Dr. Jan or get more information about her workshops, coaching, and counseling:

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